Chastity Bono comes out as Chaz Bono

Okay, I’ll admit it: the other day, when I heard that Chastity Bono (offspring of the famous Sonny and Cher duo) publicly came out as male-identified Chaz Bono, my first thought was, ‘here we go.’ Transitioning, even coming out as transgender, is very personal and oftentimes very difficult; can you even imagine how much more difficult it must be as a celebrity whose every move will undoubtedly be scrutinized by anyone and everyone with access to a sounding board?

I put off researching the news for a couple days because I wanted to write a ‘welcome-to-the-community’ post, not a ‘oh-look-we’ve-been-bashed-in-the-news-again’ post, and I wasn’t sure what I was going to find. When I finally did punch a couple words into a couple search engines, though, the results impressed me; I really couldn’t find any negative press about it. There’s a lot of pronoun-swapping and confused vocabulary, but no apparent intentional disrespect unless you actively search for it. And why do THAT?

To date, Chaz himself has not submitted to an interview on the topic; blogs and news clips all over the internet hail him as the new face of the transgender community even as they admit that Chaz seems intent to keep his transition as private as possible. Howard Bragman, a spokesperson for the family, confirmed the coming out story and Chaz’s wish for privacy, adding, “it is Chaz’s hope that his choice to transition will open the hearts and minds of the public regarding this issue,” just as his coming out as a lesbian nearly two decades ago helped bring lesbianism into public view.

Candis Cayne, transgender actress and activist, has spoken out in support of Chaz (view the clip here), and of course in support of the entire transgender community. Queer and transgender activist and support groups all over have similarly put out public messages of support.

A lot of those groups are congratulating Chaz on ‘living authentically’ or ‘taking the next step,’ which (perhaps only when taken out of context in a news article) seems to imply that transitioning is necessary or that everyone transitions in the same way. This is certainly not true; just as everyone handles gender differently, so will anyone who identifies as transgender or otherwise gender-variant approach the idea of transitioning differently. Transitioning—indeed, even coming out— is not right for everyone, but it is just as important to support those who take that path as those who take different ones. So, from all of us to you, Chaz: good for you, for doing what’s right for YOU.